The other day I had an interesting small talk with my friend Luvuyo Rani, owner of Silulo Ulutho Technologies that has more than 30 branches in the Eastern and Western Cape and now in KwaZulu Natal and was voted JCI Outstanding Young Person of the World 2014.
RM: Mhlekazi [Sir] why haven’t you done a TEDx talk before, why haven’t the TEDxCapeTown guys invited you to give a talk?
LR: No Mhlekazi’wam [My good Sir], they did ask a couple of years ago, I declined because I felt I wasn’t ready then.
RM: Oh I see, I thought they just didn’t invite you.
LR: No Mhlekazi, they did invite me. You know how we entrepreneurs are, if they didn’t invite me, I would start my own TEDx platform, I don’t have to wait for them to pick me, I will pick myself.
This small conversation got me thinking:
The world is run by those who show up… not those who wait to be asked.
If you wait to be picked, you may wait for a long time or never.
If you want to be responsible for making music, make music.
If you want to be responsible for writing, speaking, making change happen, go do that.
Waiting to get picked is a form of hiding, not realism.
What pick yourself means is that it is never been easier to decide to be responsible for your own work, for your own agenda, for the change you make in the world. To have a chance to matter. Not to be finished right now, but starting now.
This is not easy for a lot people because the Industrial Revolution way has taught us to wait for the teacher to pick us, for the manager to promote us, for the coach to select us, for the masses to vote for us.
It is easy to complain and blame someone else for not picking you.
Pick yourself means we should stop waiting, complaining and stalling.
As Seth Godin has said before:
“No one is going to pick you. Pick yourself.”
The opportunity of a lifetime is to pick yourself.
Quit waiting to get to picked.
Quit waiting for someone to give you permission.
Quit waiting for someone to say you are officially qualified.
Reject they tyranny of picked. Pick yourself.
The outcome is still in doubt, but it is clear that waiting just does not pay.