We go through challenges, struggles and heavy weight. During these times, there will always be people who stay around to witness our trials and tribulations.
These people are always there to listen, help, comfort, endure and embrace our struggle as their struggle. These are people who could have had good reasons to leave but they stayed to witness.
The witness is loyal to you even when it is easy to leave.
It’s is unfortunate that when the struggle is over, the dark clouds are gone, the sun is shining, the weather is blue, the witness is always discarded as if she was never there.
It’s unfortunate that when victory beckons, the witness who was always there to help carry the weight is now a burden that needs to be avoided like a bad rush.
In her blog, Wide Eyed in Wonder, Regina Martins talks about The Witness as follows:
“People are people, human, full of feelings and emotions, and we all come with back-stories. Those stories not everyone is a witness to. We judge based on what we see. And that is not always accurate.”
Often we judge people based on what we see outside, not knowing, witnessed the trial and tribulations they went through.
The biggest secret to a happy life is not to live to make lots of money, or to be a celebrity, the biggest secret to share your life someone you can count on even when the chips are down, someone you know will always be there when you go through a difficult time.
In the movie Shall We Dance, the private investigator asks Beverly Clark why is she still staying in a relationship and she responds:
“We need a witness to our lives. There is a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you are promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness’.”
You need a witness who will be there when you have nothing and when you have everything, when you have no money, and when you have lots of money, when you are sick and healthy, when you are irritable and joyful, when you are family issues and no issues.
You don’t need a witness who is only there for holidays, hotel rooms, VIP events only.
The Witness is someone who is always there, she asks nothing in return except that you will also be there when she is down.
The 13th century poet Hafiz wrote:
“Even after all this time
The Sun never says to the Earth,
“You owe me.”
Look what happens with a love like that,
It lights the whole sky.”
The witness is someone who is there even after all this time. The witness never says “You owe me.” because she knows there will never be a situation that leads to such words being uttered.
Life is always better when you have a witness who will always be there “even after all this time” and not say “You owe me” and you will reciprocate the feeling without saying the same.