Three things can happen when two people argue over an issue:
– One of them is wrong. At the moment, each of them are sure that the other person is the one who’s wrong.
– Neither of them is wrong. They’re arguing about something where right and wrong are relative, based on perspective. Or, perhaps…
– They’re both wrong.
The problem is that passionate debates are only passionate because of our belief that we are correct and the other person is wrong.
There’s probably not much point in getting into an argument about how correct we are and how wrong they are, since it’s quite doubtful that we’ll win every time.
You are convinced that you are right, and the other person is convinced that they are right, therefore the debate ends in a stalemate.
You can both benefit from resolving the “heated” part of the disagreement before moving on to the “cooler” half.