“If I have more love/money/friendship/fame, will I be happier?”
When we see the word “have” come before the word “be” in a question like this, we know that unhappiness is just around the corner.
Flipping the order changes everything.
Now, the question we would ask is:
“What kind of person do I have to be to have more love/money/friendship/fame?”
If we put in the effort to be reliable and kind, we just might find love and friendship.
Peace comes from letting go of the people, places, and things that make all those noises in your life, then you will be a peaceful person.
Being good at something and disciplined in our practice and execution will likely provide us financial security.
And so on and so forth.
There is a chance that we’ll win the lottery and get what we want before we’ve earned it.
But waiting to win the lottery isn’t a good plan.
Instead of asking why we don’t have what we desire, it’s better to prove that we deserve it by becoming that kind of person.
Be the kind of person who deserves what he wants to have and then you will likely have what you deserve.
Be that person first.