The past few weeks and months have been heavy with a lot of people contracting the COVID-19 virus and others losing the battle against the virus.
The heavy clouds of grief and sorrow continues to hover around our heads days on end.
When you lose a loved one, it hard to pick up the pieces and move on. Extremely hard.
The road to healing is hard. One moment you think you are fine, the next, you have tears rolling down your cheeks catching you off-guard.
Healing does not mean the loss did not happen. It means that it no longer controls us.
What do you do for someone who is experiencing grief?
Here is what David Kessler says in his amazing book: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief
“Each person’s grief is as unique as their fingerprint. But what everyone has in common is that no matter how they grieve, they share a need for their grief to be witnessed. That doesn’t mean needing someone to try to lessen it or reframe it for them. The need is for someone to be fully present to the magnitude of their loss without trying to point out the silver lining.”
Just be there, no lessening, reframing or silver lining.
Just be fully present.
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