We were in conversation recently about a situation that involved people making life decisions in an attempt to keep up with the proverbial Joneses [or the Khumalos].
Around the same time, I was reminded of this note from a Dale Carnegie classic:
“People are not thinking about you and me or caring what is said about us. They are thinking about themselves, before breakfast, after breakfast, and right on until ten minutes past midnight. They would be a thousand times more concerned about a slight headache of their own than they would about the news of your death or mine.”
He exaggerates a bit to make his point. But, it is regardless a powerful point.
Basing your decisions on other people’s opinions is a good way to find yourself dissatisfied and unfulfilled.
We make decisions and spend money we don’t have trying to keep up with the Khumalos, sometimes not knowing that even the Khumalos are broke.
Eliminating the “but, what would people think?” question makes most decision making processes better.
When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.