We don’t get promoted at home
But, what if we did?
What if we got promoted at home?
Would we spend as much time as we do at work?
How would it change the decisions on the margin when we are choosing between finishing that one last thing at work and going home a bit late?
Would we spend less energy at work so we come back home less tired and more willing to engage with our partners at home?
Would we still check our emails in the evening at home?
This need not be limited to the home. It could be applicable in the gym, a book club, a yoga class or a running/hiking/high-tea group.
I’m not suggesting we start giving our spouse, our book club mates, or ourselves titles and promotions.
But, the clear and measurable incentives that we have in place at work have a strong hold on our daily behavior.
While this is great in the short run, it is the stuff that is hard to measure that gives us the kind of fulfillment and happiness we seek in the long run.
You can’t measure love, you can’t measure spending quality time.
We get measured at work, billable hours, projects completed, customer satisfaction feedback and based on how well our scores are, we get promoted, and maybe that’s why we spend more time at work, trying to get high scores. The measurement metrics is clear.
We get measured on social media, the higher your score, likes, retweets, followers, the more popular you become, and maybe you will become more influential and liked, and probably that’s why we spend more time on our screens. The measurement metrics is clear.
We don’t get measured at home, there are no promotions at home, there are no scores, no measurement metrics [and there shouldn’t], is it why we don’t spend more time with family, and close friends? Because there is no score to measure how well we are doing with them?
Is it why it takes a pandemic, to force us to spend time with family, because if it was up to us, we would not be at home, but out there, trying to get promoted, to be popular and striving to get a high score on our measurements.
Maybe we need to reconsider our behaviour, and, a good way to check in on our behaviour is by asking, how different would we behave if there was a promotion on the line at home?
How different would we behave if there was a measurement, a promotion at home.
Maybe we would focus on being home more, spending time with loved ones more, trying to increase our measurements at home and with loved ones.
If we are talking about radical change, maybe it is time to change things up a bit.
We don’t get promoted at home.
But, what if we did?
Would you still spend as much time as you do at work?