In this book, Bishop TD Jakes explores forgiveness as a life practice and offers specific and clear actions for readers who seek to apply it in every area of their lives, their marriages, their families, their friendships, and their business relationships.

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, to let go of the pain that’s holding you back.

“Offenses are a part of life,” he says, “but conflicts can be resolved and relationships do have a future, if we learn how to forgive.”

If you just get stuck in the past and can’t forgive and move on, then you just might miss out on the biggest opportunity of your life.

Bishop Jakes points out that we who are angry do not like to give anger up because it warms us like a blanket. He warns us that this blanket is smothering us, not helping us.

He encourages the reader to seek prayer, counseling, or even beating a pillow to unblock the hurt inside of us.

The best point, in my opinion, was to let it go because the person or persons who hurt you are never going to be the mom, dad, friend, neighbor, co-worker, customer, and boss you want them to be.

Let it go and forgive. Stop being tied to the past, regain energy and move forward.

Bishop Jakes also talks about forgiving so you may be forgiven. We have all done things in our past we are not proud of. We’ve made mistakes. If we are to be forgiven, we need to forgive others and forgive ourselves, too. We must not cling to the past.

The pastor asks us to “write it off” and move on.




This is a great book for anyone trying to move on from something or forgive someone in their life. Forgiveness won’t happen overnight but reading this book has truly helped me move on and change my perspective of the world.

Bishop Jakes gives tools to move on, rid oneself from living in the past and pain and guilt, how to understand and communicate with negative people, and create peace and happiness that not only we deserve but can also share with others through our changed attitude and body language.

I highly recommend it.

Favourite Quotes

  • “Success is always intentional. No one walks across to a stage to accept a college degree by accident. No one crosses the finish line in a marathon because they got lost in the woods. No one who succeeds wakes up one day and ask “where am I, how did I get here?”

  • “Often after years of deep investment into others we are shocked and disappointed that they simply didn’t get who we really are.”
  • “Silence isn’t golden and it surely doesn’t mean consent, so start practicing the art of communication.”
  • “Simply stated, people who don’t forgive neutralize their own growth potential.”

  • “Just as Shakespeare told us that a rose by any other name will just as sweet. So are we by any other name remains just a bitter. Simple put, we refuse to forgive ourselves.”
  • “When people witness your weakness, it gives them so much power over you. But the issue is not having power, the question to remember is what would you do with that power?”
  • “Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone.”
  • “Call me foolish but I would rather err on the side of mercy than become consumed with the arrogance of righteousness and fail to offer the benefit of grace that I have also received.”

  • “Why do the forgiven fail to be forgiving? An opportunity for you for forgive the offender is not so much a test of how you handle power as it is how you handle mercy. The difference between the offended and the offender is often a thin line.”
  • “Forgiveness is essential if we are to grow into the fullness of who God created us to be. When we refuse to forgive, we basically insist on setting our standards higher than God’s.”
  • “Forgiveness isn’t about weakening you but strengthening you to live again and love again, performing at your highest capacity unencumbered by yesterday’s maladies.”




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