It’s a thin line between winning and losing.
Some people win while they are actually losing and others lose while they are actually winning.
In most interactions, losers are capable of winning.
If you push hard enough, cut corners, manipulate people, throw a tantrum, cheat a little bit, putting it all at stake, you might very well get your way.
But often, this sort of winning is actually losing.
That is because the smash and grab approach to winning, is not sustainable in the long term.
Often people prefer interacting with people they trust, with a good reputation and authentic connections not con-artists and manipulators.
Culture, it turns out, is built on people losing in the short run on behalf of the long-term win.
Authentic connection, discipline, trust, putting in the required hours, and reputation often don’t look like winning in the short-term but are worth more than any single inning in the long term.
When your business struggles but you keep on putting the required hard work, rejecting brown-envelops, bribes and “easy” money, it may look like you are losing in the short term, but if you persist, you are actually winning in the long term.
It might look like you are winning an argument in the short term, but in the long term you are losing a partner or customer.
You might be losing what looks like an opportunity in the short term, only to find that it was a temptation or distraction in the long term.
You might be losing what you thought were friends in the short term, but over time you get to know who your true friends are.
What you want in the short-term is not always what you need in the long term. Don’t confuse the two.
Invest in the long-term, it might look like you are losing in the short-term, but you are actually winning in the long term.
Not to mention that a tantrum not only ruins the relationship, it can ruin your day as well.