…. not complain afterwards.
This plane is headed to Cape Town. If Cape Town is not your destination, this would be a great time to deplane.
Often we sit in meetings, in relationships, silently not raising or registering about views about certain issues, and then the situation goes bad, we then have the guts to say “I knew this was not going to work.”
The easiest thing is to react. The second easiest is to respond. But the hardest thing is to initiate.
The hardest thing is talk before decision, register your view even if it is a dissenting view.
The silent ones are the most observant ones, and there are times when silence is not golden.
If you attend a meeting and say nothing, you are as good as not having attended. But don’t talk for the sake of talking, but talk because it makes things better. Talk less but say more.
After a decision is taken [while you kept quiet] the organisation is moving forward, it is fun and easy to be the critic, the rogue and the skeptic. Easy because the chances that you will have to actually take responsibility for your alternative view of the future are slim indeed, the plane is already headed somewhere, it can’t go both places and you missed (or bungled) your chance to change the decision.
No, the time to speak up is before the decision is made, when not only do you have a chance to change where the organisation is going, but you have the responsibility to deliver on your vision.
We do not have time to revisit every decision our organisation makes.
We merely have the time to do the best we can to execute on what we have already committed to do.
Rooting for your team to fail because they did not take a decision you silently wanted to take is as bad as it sounds.
Even if you said early and often that this path was a stupid one, that this destination makes no sense, if you are on the plane, if you are in the meeting, if you decided to play the game, then once the journey starts, your job is to get us there, safe and sound.
And then come to the next meeting with a better plan about the next decision.