I have been thinking about this for a while now, it’s never possible to fit all the way in. Never possible for everything to be all right.

How can it ever be?

And so we are trapped, always seeking to fit in a little more, always looking for one more signal that we haven’t gotten it just right, that the system is about to be disrupted, that the rules will change again and we all have to adjust (again).

The problem with being outwardly focused is that we have no centre, nothing to return to. The problem with outward focus is that there is no compass, no normal, no way to tell if we are in balance.

Without a map, how can we know what’s next?

In The Lonely Crowd, David Riesman writes, “Americans were ready for the mass media even before the mass media were ready for them.” We needed the cues and instructions, and yes, the map, in order to figure out who we should be.

It times like these when fitting in feels like fake.